What Marriage Counselors Want You To Know About Real Love

Great article on Psychology Today: "you have to get curious with your partner about why they're doing whatever they're doing. Ask—then stop talking and stop judging, and become a safe person to confide in. The sense of judgment and criticism is what can make our partners feel like such a failure that they seek another avenue to express their passion."

http://www.oprah.com/relationships/What-Real-Love-Is-Like-Couples-Therapist-Advice