Anger and Alcohol

Dear Dr. Love:

Why does alcohol make SOME people ANGRY? Is is true that alcohol brings out your TRUE feelings?

Anger and Alcohol

Answer: 

You asked, 'Does alcohol make some people angry?' Alcohol is a Central Nervous System Depressant, which means that it lowers many brain functions. One of the brain functions which is diminished is repression. Repression is an unconscious mechanism in which the mind cuts off thoughts and feelings that are unacceptable to the self.

Everyone represses intolerable feelings, but, obviously, what is intolerable for one may be fine for another. Some people may repress angry feelings and accept sexual feelings, and for others the opposite may be true. The point is, whatever feelings or thoughts are repressed are suddenly made available when alcohol is consumed. So, in answer to your question, yes, alcohol, by lowering repression, will bring out buried feelings of anger. But, the same is true, as I said already, about sexual feelings. I am sure that you have seen horny drunks who are happy to hump bar stools.

The more a person owns his feelings during sober moments, the less likely is it that the feelings will pop out when under the influence of alcohol.

Dr. Jamie Turndorf ( aka Dr. Love)

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Be aware of what you’re feeling

It is very important to be aware of what you’re feeling from moment-to-moment. Otherwise, your feelings can get easily brushed under your emotional rug, which turns you into a ticking time bomb that can explode at any moment. Instead of being in charge, you become a loose cannon on deck that fires off ammunition without warning.

Lack of awareness starts in childhood when we learn to swallow our feelings in order to avoid our parents’ anger and punishments.

As we bury our feelings, we develop unconscious defense mechanisms to help us keep our unwanted feelings, especially our angry feelings, under wraps.

Two common defense mechanisms are avoidance and denial. When we deny and avoid our feelings of anger, many problems including depression, anxiety and panic attacks, as well as physical ailments, like ulcers, headaches and colitis can result.

Displacement is yet another defense that we develop to handle anger. With displacement, we temporarily bury our anger, which we later dump or displace onto someone else. For example, if you’re angry with the boss, you might come home and kick the dog. In the case of Paula Deen, there’s a good chance that her hostile, anti racial comment was a way to vent anger that had built-up inside her from another, unrelated source. In fact, racism can be a form of displacement in which a person misdirects his/her anger onto an entire group of people.

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