Do You Quantum Think? Special Guest Dianne Collins on the Next Ask Dr Love Radio

Wednesday, October 22nd at 1 PM EST  

Do you quantum think?

This is the question that bestselling author, Dianne Collins, asks you to ask yourself.

Collins asserts that the human race is at a critical juncture in its development and it is our collective responsibility to evolve our thought process or face the consequences. Ms. Collins explains that our thinking has not evolved past an ‘Industrial Age’ paradigm rooted in a mechanical world view. Einstein’s relativity and the quantum physics of the 20th century initiated a process of dismantling this archaic model. Just as quantum physics redefined the physical world, the aim of Quantum Thinking is to reinvent perception in a way that is better suited for the shifting realities of modern times.

The message of Do You Quantum Think? is divided among “21 Quantum Think Distinctions” which blend scientific knowledge, spiritual wisdom, and current philosophy into a practical modern approach that will attune the readers to the essence of our time and the ability to think in sync with it. Some important concepts that you will draw from Do You Quantum Think? are:

• The power of Intent to manifest results in Observer-created Reality

• The disciplined use of Intuition as our access to the non-local field of Infinite Intelligence

• Listening as a dimension of being rather than a skill

• Awareness to notice and interrupt limited thinking patterns and move beyond them

• How Mind generates Emotion and how to use this dynamic energy to our advantage

Tune in for a thought provoking and mind expanding show with bestselling author Dianne Collins!

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Have you ever wondered why you’re single? On Todays' Ask Dr. Love Radio

Join me for a discussion with Aaron Lamont Curry, co-star of Tyler Perry’s House of Payne on TBS who has written This Is Why You’re Single, which provides essential solutions to bring you closer to a healthy and happy relationship.

While marriages are on the decline, it doesn’t mean the right person isn’t out there for you. Aaron’s goal is to help you learn how to break the cycle of choosing the wrong person so you can attract the man or woman that is just right for you.

I know you are going to enjoy Aaron, who is also the recipient of a House of Representative Award for his compassion towards others. His electrifying smile and magnetic spirit touches the lives of others by sharing powerful, enthusiastic messages of encouragement through writing.

Today at 1pm (EST) on Blog Talk Radio

Dr. Jamie Turndorf ( aka Dr. Love)

Why My Head and Heart Do Not Match

Dear Dr. Love,

I briefly became involved with a married man. Before we were involved, he told me that he was leaving his (pregnant) wife. He also pursued me like there was no tomorrow.

I became convinced, finally, that it was safe to proceed. But soon, I noticed some confusing messages from him about leaving his marriage, and as a result, I ended our relationship immediately.

While I know I did the right thing to take care of myself, why does it feel so bad? It's like I have an argument going on inside my head all the time about this.

And, unbelievably, he feels that I used him and I even feel guilty about that! Just curious why my head and heart do not match.

Thanks Doc.

Signed by: 

curious

Answer: 

If I understand your question, you are experiencing an internal conflict. Conflict arises when different parts of the self are at war with each other.

To help you understand what's going on, I'd like you to imagine your brain or psyche as a three-part puzzle. One part of your psyche is the emotional or id part. This part of the psyche is only interested in gratification, in satisfying urges and going after immediate gratification. This part of your psyche wanted to stay with this man and obtain pleasure through the connection.

The second part of your psyche is your superego or conscience. This part of your brain is berating you with guilt over your having dropped him. The third part of your psyche is your ego or rational self. Your decision to break up with this man was an ego driven decision and based upon a clear decision to take care of yourself and do what's best for you. Just so you know, all decisions should come from the ego, as opposed to the id or superego.

So, pat yourself on the back for having made a healthy choice for yourself. Also, realize that no matter how healthy your choice is this by no means cancels out the thoughts and feelings that emanate from the other parts of your psyche. Your id screams, 'what about me?' and your superego shouts, 'you were wrong to drop him. '

Accepting the fact that we humans are not of one 'mind' and knowing that the various parts of ourselves rarely line up should be a comfort to you. Accept your torn feelings. They are normal.

There is one thing that does concern me, however and that is how harsh your conscience seems to be. It's one thing for the selfish id to throw a tantrum when it isn't gratified--that 's to be expected--but it's quite another thing to berate yourself.

You would be wise to figure out why your conscience is so harsh. Yes, I know that this man is laying a guilt trip on you, but he can't send you on any trip unless you're willing to pack your own bags and go along for the ride.

So, find out why you're so hard on yourself. Was your mom or dad hard on you? Were they hard on themselves and did you incorporate their own traits? Is your self-attack the result of misdirected anger?

Understanding where your self-attack comes from is the first step to softening this overly harsh part of your psyche.

Dr. Jamie Turmdorf (aka Dr. Love)

Can't Let Go of Ex.

Dear Dr. Love,

I was recently involved in a brief relationship. The relationship was trouble to begin with but I continued seeing the guy. He treated me horribly, but I put up with him. Finally we broke up technically I dumped him, but emotionally he dumped me. I know he meant a lot more to me than I did to him. I'll probably never see him again, but i'm having trouble letting go. I can't stop thinking about him. I keep trying to tell myself that I'm over him, but I'm only fooling myself. How can I let go and move on with my life?

Answer: 

Whenever we can't let go of an ex. , (or whenever emotions nag at us for days on end) we are dealing with unfinished childhood business. In your case, it sounds like you were abused as a kid, and your mind has drawn you to an abuser in an attempt to heal the old wound. You may think, how can being abused once again heal me? It can't. But, our minds, left to their own devices, only know one way to try to heal us. To recreate the abuses of childhood and engage us in the futile process of attempting to make the abuser change and finally love and appreciate us.

And, here's why it's hard to give up an abuser. There is such a burning hope to make this old wound right, that the mind is actually addicted to hanging on to that abuser in the hope that one day he will treat you better. Giving up the abuser, then, becomes a terrible torture and feels like giving up the hope of ever healing the original wound.

The only way around this type of problem is to go into individual or group therapy were you will develop new, non abusive relationships. At the same time, recognize that until this problem is healed in therapy, you will be drawn to abusers and find it hard to give them up. When you experience better, loving treatment in therapy, you will heal and you will develop a model for the kind of relationship you deserve in your life. Until you work this out, it is safer to give outside relationships a rest. 

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love)

Fridays' Love Quote

“It is good to love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is well done.” 

― Vincent van Gogh

Love Quote for Friday

“It is a curious thought, but it is only when you see people looking ridiculous that you realize just how much you love them. ” 

Agatha Christie

Are You Committing Bedroom Boo-Boos?

Join me today at 1pm( EST) on Blog Talk Radio.

In this week’s show, I’m pulling back the covers to reveal the 7 most common male and female bedroom blunders and how to fix them fast.

When it comes to female errors (if you’ll pardon the pun), did you know that paying too much attention to his is high on the list of sexual sins? And do you know the other 6 errors that most women make?

As for guys, when it comes to raining on her sexual parade, did you know that the “Get Her Done” approach, or what I refer to as the Sex Olympics is top of the list of male bedroom boo-boos. If you don’t want her to be shouting “boo” at you in bed, tune in to find out the 6 other sexual blunders that most men make.

Join me to find out whether, when it comes to getting laid, you’re laying an egg!

Dr. Jamie Turndorf ( aka Dr. Love)

If you miss the show at 1pm you can also watch it on demand.

It’s Your Fault You’re Single!

It’s Your Fault You’re Single: With Dating Coach Mr. Locario

This week I’ll be interviewing NYC Based Dating Coach, Mr. Locario who says: “It’s your fault that you’re single!”

Mr. Locario also says that finding your ideal partner comes from being open and honest and understanding the opposite sex (if you’re straight that is!.

In the tradition of positive psychology, Mr. Locario encourages people to focus on the little things that are good in their lives and to cultivate gratitude. He also advises people to approach others by asking the positive question: “What’s good in your life?” to inspire happiness in others and kick off a positive connection.

Join me for an Ask Dr Love show that’s going rock with rapper/dating coach Mr. Locario!

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Wondering If I'll be Happy with Him Forever

Relationship expert Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) helps a young woman who is pregnant and not sure if the father of her child is the right partner for her. The fact that she has always been afraid of commitment complicates the issue. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier free relationship advice site since 1996. Search thousands of relationship, marriage, dating, and sex advice articles and videos on every imaginable problem, or Ask Dr. Love your own question!

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Getting Cold Feet

Relationship expert Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) works with a young woman who describes her fiance as a wonderful man and perfect partner. For this reason, she cannot understand why, as soon as they became engaged, she began worrying about whether they will last, and even started thinking about a former boyfriend. Find out why “futurizing” or worrying about the future, rather than savoring the now, is causing her misery in life and love. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier free relationship advice site since 1996. Search thousands of relationship, marriage, dating, and sex advice articles and videos on every imaginable problem, or Ask Dr. Love your own question!

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Less Than a Woman

Relationship expert Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) helps a woman who awoke from surgery to discover that her ovaries had been removed due to cancer. In their place is a large scar and a permanent mediport in her neck. Since this time, her husband won’t have sex with her. Even though they are renewing their vows soon, she isn’t hopeful that their relationship can be saved. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier free relationship advice site since 1996. Search thousands of relationship, marriage, dating, and sex advice articles and videos on every imaginable problem, or Ask Dr. Love your own question!

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You've Scheduled Your Loss of Virginity

Relationship expert Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) helps out a 19 year old woman who has decided to bite the sexual bullet three months from now. Now she has herself in a lather over whether sex will hurt, how she will feel afterwards, etc. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier free relationship advice site since 1996. Search thousands of relationship, marriage, dating, and sex advice articles and videos on every imaginable problem, or Ask Dr. Love your own question!

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Married Lady Who is Guilty Over Her Attraction to Another Man

Relationship expert Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) helps a woman decipher what her crush can tell her about how she feels about her main squeeze! AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier free relationship advice site since 1996. Search thousands of relationship, marriage, dating, and sex advice articles and videos on every imaginable problem, or Ask Dr. Love your own question!

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I Need Answers Before It's Too Late

Relationship expert Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) helps a woman who says that she should be grateful that her boyfriend hasn’t cheated on her despite her moodiness. At the same time, she’s not happy with his neglect of her. Find out the hidden reason why her boyfriend doesn’t meet her needs, and what she can do to turn things around. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier free relationship advice site since 1996. Search thousands of relationship, marriage, dating, and sex advice articles and videos on every imaginable problem, or Ask Dr. Love your own question!

http://askdrlove.com/drlove-advice/i-need-answers-its-too-late

Depressed Boyfriend

Couples therapist Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) answers the question of a woman who is worried that her boyfriend's depression is going to ruin their relationship. She asks for advice on how to help him out of his depression. Search thousands of FREE dating, relationship, and sex advice articles on every imaginable issue, or Ask Dr Love your own question! AskDrLove.com has been Web's premier FREE Relationship Advice site since 1995.

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Why Keeping Cool Is The Number One Relationship Rule!

In this Ask Dr. Love show, Dr. Jamie Turndorf reveals how keeping your cool can turn up the heat and increase long term relationship romance and harmony. Ask Dr. Love is a one hour live Internet Radio program. Call in with any of your marriage, relationship, dating, or sex advice questions. AskDrLove.com now offers 1000's of FREE articles on every imaginable relationship issue--or, ask Dr. Love your own question!

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Why You Should Make Keeping Cool Your Number One Relationship Rule!

In this Ask Dr. Love show, Dr. Jamie Turndorf reveals how keeping your cool can turn up the heat and increase long term relationship romance and harmony. Ask Dr. Love is a one hour live Internet Radio program. Call in with any of your marriage, relationship, dating, or sex advice questions. AskDrLove.com now offers 1000's of FREE articles on every imaginable relationship issue--or, ask Dr. Love your own question!

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How To Turn Up The Heat By Keeping Your Cool!

In this Ask Dr. Love radio show, Dr. Jamie Turndorf reveals how keeping your cool can turn up the heat and increase long term relationship romance and harmony.

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Why You Should Make Keeping Cool Your Number One Relationship Rule!

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