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Confessions of a Gigolo with Vin Armani, star of Showtime’s Gigolos

Could America’s top gigolo teach you a thing or two about seduction?

Well, tune in and find out!

I talked with Vin Armani, internationally known elite male companion for women and star of the Showtime show, Gigolos. His years of experience, both professional and otherwise in the art of seduction have given him a deep understanding of the applied principles of human socio-sexuality. Through his experience as an elite male companion, Armani has developed a unique approach to developing a genuine and positive connection with clients.

Author of the book Tao of The Gigolo, Armani has established unique views on love, relationships, romance, and sexuality. His philosophy and passion for delivering exceptional experiences brought him to establish Companion Concierge.

Join me to learn about the art of seduction secrets from a seduction master!

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Did you know that a slight edge in your voice can set your guy’s teeth on edge?

It’s true!

Men are highly sensitive to the slightest modulations in a woman’s voice.

Your voice alone can trigger ANS arousal and withdrawal reactions in him.

And you know what happens to your voice when he’s withdrawing from you! When you raise your voice, you’re insuring even more withdrawal behaviors!

Join me to find out how you can use your voice to stop a guy from withdrawing and even inspire love with your voice alone!

Tune in for a fascinating discussion with Jill Mattson, author, artist, musician and widely recognized expert and composer in the emerging field of Sound Healing. Jill has written four books and produced six CD's that combine intricate Sound Healing techniques with her original Award winning musical compositions.

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love)

Are You Committing Bedroom Boo-Boos?

Join me today at 1pm( EST) on Blog Talk Radio.

In this week’s show, I’m pulling back the covers to reveal the 7 most common male and female bedroom blunders and how to fix them fast.

When it comes to female errors (if you’ll pardon the pun), did you know that paying too much attention to his is high on the list of sexual sins? And do you know the other 6 errors that most women make?

As for guys, when it comes to raining on her sexual parade, did you know that the “Get Her Done” approach, or what I refer to as the Sex Olympics is top of the list of male bedroom boo-boos. If you don’t want her to be shouting “boo” at you in bed, tune in to find out the 6 other sexual blunders that most men make.

Join me to find out whether, when it comes to getting laid, you’re laying an egg!

Dr. Jamie Turndorf ( aka Dr. Love)

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How Understanding Creates Longstanding Love

Did you know that happy couples are happy because they know how to enter each other’s emotional realities and see the world from the other’s vantage point?

The technical name for this skill is Partial Identification. What this skill entails is keeping one foot on your own side of the emotional fence while at the same time stepping into your partner’s emotional shoes.

No relationship can thrive without this skill.

Unfortunately, in distressed relationships, partners never Partially Identify with each other; instead, they ram their individual realities down each other’s throats...which leads to ringing each other’s necks!

Because Partial Identification is the master key to heading off fights--and creating a solid bond--you’ll want to tune in to learn how to master this skill.

And, by the way, this skill will improve all your relationships with friends, family, kids and co-workers

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love)

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Hopeless

Dear Dr. Love,

I used to go out with this guy 5 years ago, I have been in love with him for about 6 years now. About 6 months ago we started talking and kind of seeing one another however he is engaged and he tells me he really likes me and wants to have sexual relations, and oral sex. He says he is afraid that his fiancee will find out if he does these things. . I am so much in love with him I would do anything for him. . . Please help me!!!!!

Hopeless

Answer: 

So, let's see if I get this straight. This man who is engaged to another woman wants you to give him oral sex. He wants you to do it on the sly so that he doesn't jeopardize his relationship with his fiancee. What's he offering you in return? Lockjaw!!! This man proposes to treat you like a whore. . . or worse. He's not even paying to use you.

At this point, I think you need to find out why you are so in love with someone who degrades you. I can give you a hint as to why I think you are so drawn this man. If you read over your letter, you will see that you sound desperate to have him. Your urgent tone gives me a clue that your mind is locked in a repetition compulsion (the urge to recreate a traumatic aspect of childhood, so that it can work for a happier ending). What traumatic aspect of your childhood is being recreated here? I suspect that you felt you had to chase your dad (or mom) for love and attention, and that despite your efforts, you felt used and not loved back.

By giving this man what he wants, you are sending out the message: Use me, buddy. I don't respect myself, so you don't have to either. You will never win this man by allowing yourself to be used. I repeat, he will never respect you or love you, if you go through with your plan.

Dr. Jamie Turndorf ( aka Dr. Love)

Messages of Hope

Today on Blog Talk Radio

Messages of Hope with guest Suzanne Giesemann

Are you feeling a little short on hope?

Don’t despair...In this week’s show, I’m going to be talking with Suzanne Giesemann who will be bringing her message of hope. An acclaimed inspirational speaker, she captivates audiences as she brings hope, healing, and comfort through her work.

Suzanne Giesemann has experienced one of the most unique career transitions ever – a career transition that spans dimensions! Suzanne is a retired U.S. Navy Commander. She served as a commanding officer, as special assistant to the Chief of Naval Operations, and as Aide to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff on 9/11. Today she is the author of ten books, a spiritual teacher, and an evidential medium. Suzanne’s gift of communication with those on the other side provides stunning evidence of life after death. In her work, Suzanne addresses questions about the purpose of life, the nature of reality, and attuning to higher consciousness. Her work has been recognized as highly credible by afterlife researcher Dr. Gary Schwartz, Ph.D., and best-selling author Dr. Wayne Dyer.

Please join me today at 1pm (EST)

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love)

Confused and Angry

Hello,

 I am writing to you for some advice about my fiance. When he is not sleeping or eating he is on this computer. His business deals with computers also, but even when he is not working he is always on this computer. He stays up until 3 and 4 in the morning doing god knows what on the computer. I talked to him about it and for about a week he spent time with me and one day he didn't even turn the thing on. I was finally happy and lately he has slipped back into the rut again. I really am beginning to hate this computer even tho that is my major in college and it is going to be my career. He is turning me against the computer because I feel that the computer is taking my place. Your advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

 Confused and Angry

Answer: 

Your boyfriend has one of two problems: either he has an addictive personality and/or he is using the computer in order to avoid intimacy. You are naturally feeling hurt and rejected, and have fallen into a trap that many women fall into. When we don't get what we need, we resort to nagging and complaining, which creates a nasty power struggle: In your case, the more you nag and pressure your boyfriend to quit the computer, the more he buries his nose in the keyboard. And, this pattern will only worsen, unless we change strategies.

Instead of nagging him to get off the computer, use reverse psychology. Get very busy yourself. When he wants to see you or talk with you, tell him you'd love to but you simply are too busy with rock climbing or whatever else you're into (if you're not into anything, get a hobby fast). And, when you tell him that you're busy, be light and breezy; don't sound angry or retaliatory. When he feels lonely and neglected, he should come around. And, any time he slips back into no-man's land, you pull-back too.

This technique is a proven effective way to break the kind of power struggle you're locked in. But, keep in mind, if we are dealing with deeper issues, such as an addictive personality or intimacy phobia, the technique I suggest will probably only serve as a temporary solution, and the underlying issues will probably rear their heads again.

But, don't despair, the pull-back technique I described above, can actually cure at least one of the underlying problems I mentioned: the intimacy problem. You see, if you give your boyfriend room, you can help him heal an intimacy fear. (A fear of intimacy usually conceals a deeper fear: if I let her close to me, she will chew me up and swallow me whole and I will have no identity left. So, as you see, by pulling-back yourself, you are showing him that you don't intend to take him over, which can heal intimacy phobics. )

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love )

It's almost the weekend...

A quote to remember ;

" Happiness is a direction, not a place. " ( Sydney J Harris)

Woman Falling For Her Ex Boyfriend's Best Friend

Dear Dr Love,

I am in the middle of a break up with my boyfriend. I have moved on but I'm not sure he has. This would be difficult enough but I have a larger problem. I am very attracted to his best friend. It is more than physical attraction, I'm attracted to who he is. I sense that his friend is attracted to me but afraid to do anything about it. His old girlfriend is now dating his friend so he knows the pain this sort of situation can cause.

How long should I wait before I confront him or should I confront him at all? I don't want to hurt either my old boyfriend or my new love interest. Can this work out at all?

Sincerely, 

Woman falling for her boyfriend's best friend

Answer: 

Yes this can work out. The fact that you are so sensitive to your boyfriend and new love interest's feelings is wonderful. And, because of this sensitivity and caring, you should be able to move forward with the man of your choice, and do so in a sensitive way.

Here's how. You talk to your ex. , and tell him: 'Since we are no longer dating, I was interested in dating your friend so and so. I had the feeling that this might hurt you and I wanted to talk with you about it first. ' You give him an opportunity to share all his feelings, listen and understand. After this is done, then, get on with your life.

In other words, your job is not to take care of your ex. to the exclusion of your own needs. You must take care of and honor yourself first. In handling the matter the way I suggest, you don't simply roll over your ex. , you listen and respect his feelings. . . but at the same time you don't roll over yourself by denying your own desires. As for the new love interest, you can also be direct with him and say, 'I know that you know how painful it is when a best friend dates your former lover. I am interested in getting to know you better. . . would your friendship with so and so (your ex. ) stand in our way?'

 Dealing directly and addressing not running from the feelings is the trick to navigating this emotional minefield.

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love )

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American Hope Radio

Even if you are locked in battle and have been for years, your relationship can change. Beginning with simple Cool-Down steps, you’ll learn why husband withdrawal occurs and then how to use Climate Control strategies to reset the relationship.

Women will discover the real reason why men never seem to listen,it’s nothing personal and the secret trick that actually makes them want to listen and stick around to settle disputes.  My proven conflict-resolution method interrupts the cycle of fighting for the majority of couples, and can also be used to defuse disagreements among friends and family members.

Join me today at 11 am (EST) on American Hope Radio. I will be discussing my latest book Kiss Your Fights Good-Bye

Dr. Jamie Turndorf ( aka Dr. Love )

Reading Between the Sheets

Whenever couples are locked in SexWars, oftentimes non-sexual issues are afoot.

In fact, sexual struggles are often symbolic expressions of fear of intimacy, dependency, abandonment, or loss of control.

It was time for some bedroom detective work. I use my Reading Between the Sheets technique to uncover what sexual insatiability really mean.

To do this, I ask:

• How does he/she feel when he/she didn’t have as much sex as he liked?
• What is he/she missing in the relationship, if anything?
• What is he/she missing within oneself?
• What hole is he/she trying to fill (no pun intended) by having sex?
• How long had the problem been going on?
• What had changed in the couple’s life and relationship?
• Was sex ever good between them? If so, when did it deteriorate?

Reading Between the Sheets is like peeling the layers of an onion. On the first layer, you may well discover that sexual battles often reflect deeper relationship issues that have nothing to do with sex. When we peel off the next layer, we discover that heated sexual conflicts are often fueled by Old Scars from childhood.

To read more at Psychology Today.

Dr Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love)

How To Be Happy No Matter What

Is  your happiness tied to what goes on around you? I mean, does your mood take a nosedive when life around you isn’t going perfectly, when someone says something hurtful or nasty to you, when you are in conflict with your partner or when you are without a partner?  

Get ready to meet Cindy Teevens who discovered the way to stay happy no matter what goes on around her.

Join me to discover how you can create radical inner peace and happiness no matter what’s going on around you, Tuesday, January 14th,  1pm (EST)   on Talk Zone Radio:  http://bit.ly/NLSP5U

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love)

Attracted to a Much Older Woman

Dear Dr. Love,

I have an issue of being very sexually and emotionally attracted to the woman 20 + years beyond my age..   This one woman is quite cute, smart and to be honest has an incredible body with just about the largest bust I have ever laid eyes on.  She is so sexy and I really like her.  However, I also love my wife.  What should I do?  I fantasize about this woman all the time and develop an erection just thinking about her.

Signed by: 

Frustrated

Answer: 

You need some serious relationship advice! So here it comes.

Ever heard the saying: “keep it in your pants?”

The reason I'm quoting this saying to you is because it doesn't matter that you’re sexually and emotionally attracted to this other woman. A man’s body is wired to be attracted to all kinds of women. So what?

The bottom line here is you love your wife and you made a vow to her.

The fantasies you are engaging in are a form of emotional infidelity. Even though you haven’t slept with this other woman, you are emotionally cheating on your wife. If you want to keep the marriage, it’s time to stop indulging yourself in fantasies about this other woman. It’s just self-indulgence and very destructive for you, your wife and your marriage.

My advice is for you to apply your creativity to constructing a more fun and fantasy filled relationship and sex life with your wife.

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love)

Woman Who Can't Let Go of Ex.

Dear Dr. Love,

I was recently involved in a brief relationship. The relationship was trouble to begin with but I continued seeing the guy. He treated me horribly, but I put up with him. Finally we broke up technically I dumped him, but emotionally he dumped me. I know he meant a lot more to me than I did to him. I'll probably never see him again, but I'm having trouble letting go. I can't stop thinking about him. I keep trying to tell myself that I'm over him, but I'm only fooling myself. How can I let go and move on with my life?

Answer: 

Whenever we can't let go of an ex. , (or whenever emotions nag at us for days on end) we are dealing with unfinished childhood business. In your case, it sounds like you were abused as a kid, and your mind has drawn you to an abuser in an attempt to heal the old wound. You may think, how can being abused once again heal me? It can't. But, our minds, left to their own devices, only know one way to try to heal us. To recreate the abuses of childhood and engage us in the futile process of attempting to make the abuser change and finally love and appreciate us.

And, here's why it's hard to give up an abuser. There is such a burning hope to make this old wound right, that the mind is actually addicted to hanging on to that abuser in the hope that one day he will treat you better. Giving up the abuser, then, becomes a terrible torture and feels like giving up the hope of ever healing the original wound.

The only way around this type of problem is to go into individual or group therapy were you will develop new, non abusive relationships. At the same time, recognize that until this problem is healed in therapy, you will be drawn to abusers and find it hard to give them up. When you experience better, loving treatment in therapy, you will heal and you will develop a model for the kind of relationship you deserve in your life. Until  work this out, it is safer to give outside relationships a rest. 

Dr. Jamie Turndorf( aka Dr. Love)

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"Happy Hour"

1/9/2014 - 7:30pm

Spend your "Happy Hour" this week with Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love), learning how to strengthen your relationships!

Listen Live: http://mix97fm.com/

Join Me Today at 1pm ( EST)

This week, I have a remarkable and inspiring show for you.

I’ll be introducing you to Michael Russer a highly regarded international speaker and author and TV personality who, beginning in September of 2011 began a year-long personal transformation that included a diagnosis of prostate cancer, radical prostatectomy, follow up intensive radiation treatments and full blown impotence. He considers his resulting impotence to be one of the biggest blessings in his life. It is because of his impotence that he and his partner discovered an entirely new approach to experiencing levels of emotional and physical intimacy that far exceeds anything either experienced prior to when things were working “correctly.” It is his personal mission in life to serve other couples who struggle with emotional and physical intimacy due to ED, impotence or simply because they have lost their “spark” and use his communications skills to share what he has learned worldwide.

If you or someone you know is suffering from ED, you won’t want to miss this show!

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If the days ahead have you filled with dread, fear no more!

In this Ask Dr. Love radio show, I explain why millions of people end up broken rather than happy hearted during the holidays. The reason: we unconsciously return home hoping to finally heal our Old Scars and achieve our Happy Endings. When we don’t achieve our Happy Ending, our hearts are broken.

It is precisely by being conscious of your Old Scars that you can free yourself to not repeat the old behavior patterns that re-injure rather than heal you.

It is this same consciousness that will enable you to head-off and even heal longstanding family feuds. As you become the instrument that heals the feuds, you will finally achieve the Happy Ending that your heart has been craving.

Discover how to bring consciousness and reason into your holiday season, using effective and constructive communications that heal yourself and your family!

Tune in to hear my proven plan for turning your family hollerdays into truly joyous holidays and beyond!

This show features special guest Rick Tamlyn, Master Certified Coach and developer of The Bigger Game, a tool that inspires executives, leaders and everyday people to get out of their comfort zones and invent the life they want.

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Why Women Love Bad Boys with guest author Victoria M. Howard

Are you suffering from a bad case of Bad Boy Blues?

Well, if you find yourself attracted to guys who come from the wrong side of the tracks, you may be addicted to bad boys!

So, tune in to this week's show

and receive a much needed dose of Bad Boy therapy!

This week I’ll be talking with Victoria M. Howard, bestselling author of Why Women Love Bad Boys, about why women fall for bad boys, how to recognize the 10 main types of bad boys including commitment phobes, narcissists, cheaters, emotional abusers and 6 more varieties; and, most importantly, how to break your bondage to a bad boy. And, no, I’m not talking about S&M, although a guy who’s heavily into S&M could be yet another bad boy!

Find out why even beautiful and intelligent women fall for the type of men their mothers warned them about...

And why both America's sweetheart Sandra Bullock married rebel Jesse James and multi-talented Whitney Houston fell under the spell of Bad Boy Bobby Brown.

Join me Thursday on Blog Talk Radio  for what I am sure will be a good discussion on how to free yourself from bad boys!

Dr.Jamie Turndorf ( ask Dr. Love)

How to Spot a Player BEFORE You Get Played

Are you putting your body, mind, heart and soul at risk by having sex too soon?

In this edition of Ask Dr. Love radio, I’m going to discuss why the opinions of the dating coach who appeared on my show last week are dead wrong and dangerous for you to follow!

If you listened last week, you heard him say that if a woman wants to form a relationship, she  must  put the erotic cart before the emotional horse--and have sex from the starting gate.   

What this coach doesn't know is that there is science behind why premature sex can be dangerous, especially for women, and counterproductive to the formation of a relationship.

For one thing, sex too early in the game puts a woman at risk of becoming the target of a player who has no interest in forming a relationship...or falling for someone who just isn’t a good fit.

Second, and contrary to what this coach said, having sex too soon can actually drive a man away.

Tuesday, August 13th, 1pm (EST) on Talk Zone Radio

Tune in to find out why practicing self-love by setting boundaries for yourself in the key to forming a solid relationship. It is precisely during this time of waiting and watching that a woman is supposed to assess her prospective partner’s capacity to form a relationship and evaluate whether compatibility exists.

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