Everyone’s heard of an IQ, or an “Intelligence Quotient.” We all know that we have one, and most people would prefer to have at least a normal or above average IQ (and most people probably think they do). But when it comes to relationships, a high IQ score is no measure of how smart you are in love. It doesn’t measure the intelligence of your heart, only your head. To measure that, I’ve devised a new metric I call the RIQ, or Relationship Intelligence Quotient.
In fact, when it comes to relationships, listening to your head can often be fatal, and is often the cause of a wide variety of relationship troubles. This is because too often we’re thinking about what we should be doing or how things should be instead of feeling, and relationships are ruled by the heart, not the head: they’re about feelings, not facts or logic, and feelings are quite often anything but strictly logical. You can’t only think your way out of relationship conflicts. You have to feel your way through them.
In fact, when it comes to relationships, listening to your head can often be fatal, and is often the cause of a wide variety of relationship troubles. This is because too often we’re thinking about what we should be doing or how things should be instead of feeling, and relationships are ruled by the heart, not the head: they’re about feelings, not facts or logic, and feelings are quite often anything but strictly logical. You can’t only think your way out of relationship conflicts. You have to feel your way through them.
You could say that the heart isn’t exactly illogical, but has its own kind of logic. As Pascal said, “Le cœur a ses raisons, que la raison ne connaît point,” which means, the heart has its reasons that reason doesn’t understand! IQ measures your reasoning and logical faculties, your memory, and your knowledge of various subjects. It doesn’t measure your social and communication abilities, your level of empathy and compassion, your range of emotions and how you handle your feelings and react to others.
Your IQ measures the intelligence in your head. Your RIQ measures the intelligence of your heart!
Using my FREE guide, "What’s Your Relationship IQ? Dr. Love’s 25 Keys for Learning About Your Relationship Intelligence," we will look at how you function in relationships through a series of multiple choice options for how you would react in a given relationship situation. Preferred answers for the more healthy responses, analysis of your final score, analysis of why you might react the way you do and suggestions on how to do things differently are provided.
This test can work in tandem with your Personality Profile to help you understand what makes you tick when it comes to relationships while showing you all the areas in which you can improve in order to make your relationships happier, healthier and stronger. All of these tests are part of Dr. Love's Relationship Toolkit , which contains 11 FREE tests and guides that are all free with your AskDrLove Newsletter Subscription. Sign up now using the form on this page, or find out more about what you get with your newsletter.
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