Showing posts with label relationship_advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship_advice. Show all posts

Monday, February 10, 2014

Free First Chapter




Kiss Your Fights Good-bye - Free First Chapter



Heated fighting triggers a biochemical imbalance in men that causes them to flee from conflict. The technical name for this is the Demand/ Withdraw Negative Escalation Cycle, also known as “husband withdrawal.” This is the number one cause of marital and relationship strife, divorce, and domestic violence. 






Saturday, February 8, 2014

True but Sad





I was engaged to my girlfriend of two years. People might have thought she was more attached than I was possibly. Not the case however. She ended up leaving me. We have been away from each other for at least 4-5 months. Since then I met a very nice girl which I have been dating for about 1 1/2 months.

I am now finding that I miss my ex dearly, so I broke it off with my current. My ex lives down the street, yet we haven’t even seen each other out. Things ended harshly. We have only a few friends in common, I haven’t said a word about how I still remorse. I need minor advice on how to open the lines of communication, just as friends, to make myself feel better. How would I go about opening communication?



The best way to open lines of communication is to open them. You know where she lives. You know her address. You know her phone number. Choose the mode of communication that suits you best and start talking. Tell her exactly what you told me. That you regret having broken up. That you miss her dearly. That you broke off with the woman you were dating because you can’t see yourself with anyone but her. If this sounds too mushy and you prefer to reestablish a friendship, then, tell her that you miss her friendship and want to be in touch with her again. You could also tell her that you aren’t happy with the way your relationship ended and with the things that were said to each other. Tell her that you are sure that she has feelings leftover that she never told you. Maybe she is hurt or angry by some of the things you said or did. And, tell her that you are open to hearing all about how she feels about how you behaved during the break-up or, for that matter, how you behaved during the relationship.


Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Ten Ways to Keep Romance Alive


  1. Don't Stockpile Anger Deal with whatever is bothering you in the moment. Stored resentments destroy romance in two ways: 1) they cut off positive feelings; and 2) they eventually explode in words or actions that destroy the relationship. No relationship, no romance.
  2. Play Together Sharing fun times builds intimacy, the soil for romance. Make a snowman. Have a pillow fight. Play together like you did when you were young.
  3. Grow Together Trees grow until they die, so why shouldn't people? If either one of you stops growing, the relationship will feel stuck in a rut. A relationship in a rut means no romance. To break out of the rut, and rekindle romance, start growing together. For example, take a course on a subject that interests you both.
  4. Make a Date A fun way to keep romance alive is to recreate one of your first dates. Dress the same as you did way back when and visit the same restaurant. Doing so will resurrect the old feelings of excitement.
  5. Take a Trip Down Memory Lane Travel together to a spot you visited when you were lovers. If you can't get there in person, then look at the photos of one of your early trips. Remember the smells, sights and sounds. Recall how you felt back then. Recreate a special moment from that trip, right in your own living room.
  6. Take Initiative An excellent way to rebuild and maintain romance is to take initiative. Do something for your mate that you know he or she likes, e.g. give a candlelit massage or prepare a favorite dish. The point is that taking initiative conveys your love, boosts intimacy, and sparks romance.
  7. Keep Listening If you have been together for a while, you may assume that you know everything about your partner. Many long-term couples stop asking what the other partner needs, thinks or feels. This pattern leads to feelings of neglect, a major romance killer. Never assume that you know what your mate thinks, feels or wants, no matter how long you've been together. Keep asking and keep listening in order to keep romance alive.
  8. Keep Sex on the Front Burner Many couples that have been together for a while cut back on sex. Research says that unresolved anger kills the sex drive. Follow step one (don't stockpile anger) and keep on trucking in the sex department. Make sex dates, try new positions and locations. Do whatever you know turns your mate on. Remember: For women, romance is the greatest form of foreplay. 
  9. Say I Love You If you remember to say "I love you" (and offer other caring statements and gestures) five times a day, romance will stay. Remember, five times a day and the romance will stay. Knowing your partner's "Love Language," is important. For some, words of love hit the spot, for others, talk is cheap and actions speak a thousand words!
  10. Isn't It Romantic? Never assume that you know what your mate finds romantic. For one spouse, watching a football game, clutching a beer, is the height of romance. For the other, this scenario might be the height of boredom. So, make sure you find out what rings your mate's chimes. Then, don't file the information away, like an old research project. Put your information into practice and say and do what your mate finds romantic.
  11. www.askdrlove.com

Monday, June 25, 2012

How Can You Find Mr. or Ms. Right? Ask The Right Questions!

Relationship Expert Dr. Jamie Turndorf reveals her proven methods for verifying that you’ve found your perfect mate. If you want to know how to interview prospective partners--without grilling them like a steak-- then listen to Dr. Jamie Turndorf on her next Ask Dr Love Radio show titled "Critical Questions to Ask Before You Get Close” on Tuesday, June 26th, 2012 at 9pm EST.

http://www.prlog.org/11906213-how-can-you-find-mr-or-ms-right-ask-the-right-questions.html

Thursday, June 14, 2012

In Love and Rejected

In “In Love and Rejected,” I help out a guy who still loves a girl who rejected him two years ago. Recently, she’s been “sniffing around the barn,” indicating that she wants him back. He is filled with fear that she will reject him again. Join me as I discuss how he can tell whether she is, indeed, his ideal mate, his very own Ms. Right, or just a major heartbreak waiting to happen AGAIN!

http://askdrlove.com/drlove-advice/love-and-rejected

Saturday, May 26, 2012

Not Sure How to Read a Shy Guy

Relationship expert Dr. Jamie Turndorf helps a woman figure out how to decipher the mixed signals that a guy in her poetry class in sending her. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier free relationship advice site since 1996. Search thousands of relationship, marriage, dating, and sex advice articles and videos on every imaginable problem, or Ask Dr. Love your own question!

http://askdrlove.com/drlove-advice/not-sure-how-read-shy-guy

Thursday, May 24, 2012

I'm Completely Depressed but I Shouldn't be I Don't Think

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) helps a young woman who is furious with her boyfriend who always accused her of cheating on him, when she didn’t, and who is now about to cheat on her. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier free love advice site since 1996, with thousands of free relationship, dating, and sex advice articles and videos on every imaginable problem.

http://askdrlove.com/drlove-advice/im-completely-depressed-i-shouldnt-be-i-dont-think

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Am I Overreacting?

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) helps a woman who discovered that her boyfriend has been texting his ex, and she shares effective strategies for handling this issue without revealing that she violated his privacy. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier relationship advice site since 1996, offering 1000's of free articles on every imaginable relationship, dating, and sex advice issue.

http://askdrlove.com/drlove-advice/am-i-over-reacting

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Top Relationship Expert Reveals Relationship Harmony Secrets

Dr. Jamie Turndorf, the popular relationship expert known by two generations of fans as Dr. Love through her award winning Web site AskDrLove.com, will be presenting "How to Create Relationship Happiness by Putting Yourself in Your Partner’s Emotional Shoes!” on her “Ask Dr Love Radio” show on Tuesday, May 22th, 2012 at 9pm EST. On this week’s show, she’ll be discussing a vital skill that happy couples practice: they put themselves in each other’s emotional shoes. The technical name for this skill is partial identification. While happy couples use this skill to create a strong bond, distressed couples, by contrast, break their bond by ramming thoughts and feelings down each other’s throats! Find out how you can stop your fights dead in their tracks by simply partially identifying with your partner.

http://www.ideamarketers.com/?articleid=3254821

Top Relationship Expert Reveals the Secrets to Relationship Happiness

Renowned relationship expert and author Dr. Jamie Turndorf reveals "How to Create Relationship Happiness by Putting Yourself in Your Partner’s Emotional Shoes!” on her “Ask Dr Love Radio” show on Tuesday, May 22th, 2012 at 9pm EST. On this week’s show, she’ll be discussing a vital skill that happy couples practice: they put themselves in each other’s emotional shoes. The technical name for this skill is partial identification. While happy couples use this skill to create a strong bond, distressed couples, by contrast, break their bond by ramming thoughts and feelings down each other’s throats! Find out how you can stop your fights dead in their tracks by simply partially identifying with your partner

http://www.free-press-release.com/news-top-relationship-expert-reveals-the-secrets-to-relationship-happiness-1337615045.html

Monday, May 21, 2012

I'm Trying To Move ON, But it Hurts --What Now?

Dr. Jamie Tundorf (aka Dr Love) advises a woman who still loves her ex on how she can approach him and let him know that she wants him back. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier free love advice site since 1996, with thousands of free relationship, dating, and sex advice articles and videos on every imaginable problem.

http://askdrlove.com/drlove-advice/im-trying-move-it-hurts-what-now

Top Relationship Expert Shares Proven Relationship Saving Techniques

On Ask Dr. Love Radio Tuesday May 22nd, renowned relationship expert and author Dr. Jamie Turndorf will be revealing how to strengthen your relationship by putting yourself in your partner’s emotional shoes. “In this show,” Dr. Turndorf says, “I share my proven method for partially identifying with your partner. Instead of hitting each other below the belt, try putting this skill under your belt! When you do, watch your love blossom!”

http://www.prlog.org/11879656-top-relationship-expert-shares-proven-relationship-saving-techniques.html

Monday, May 14, 2012

Top Relationship Expert Reveals How To Stop Chronic Fighting Now

Renowned relationship expert Dr. Jamie Turndorf reveals how to tell if you're "Fight Junkie" or in a relationship with one and how to kick the habit today. On this week’s show, she’ll be discussing the fact that millions of couples are addicted to fighting and don’t even realize it. Join her as she helps you decipher whether you and your partner are, indeed fighting junkies! And, if you are, she’ll be demonstrating her top techniques that will help you break free of this destructive relationship dance.

http://www.widepr.com/press_release/39626/top_relationship_expert_reveals_how_to_stop_chronic_fighting_now.html

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Pulling Away

Dr. Jamie Turndorf helps a young woman whose boyfriend who told her before they had sex that he was not a “fly by night operation.” But as soon as he unzipped his fly, he began pulling away. She wonders how to discuss what’s happening without appearing needy and driving him farther away. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier love advice site since 1996 with thousands of free relationship advice columns now in modern easy to search and browse formats.

http://askdrlove.com/drlove-advice/pulling-away

Friday, May 11, 2012

Will He or Won't He?

Dr. Jamie Turndorf helps a young woman whose boyfriend says he’s only interested in fun. She wonders if it’s possible for such a guy to fall in love. AskDrLove.com is the Web's premier love advice site since 1996 offering thousands of free and easy to search relationship, marriage, dating, and sex advice columns.

http://askdrlove.com/drlove-advice/will-he-wont-he

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Top Relationship Expert Reveals How To Stop Fighing Today

Popular author and creator of AskDrLove.com Dr. Jamie Turndorf to outline her simple yet highly effective relationship conflict resolution methods on AskDrLove Radio May 8th. "In this show," Dr. Turndorf says, "I share my top three First Aid Tools to cool down a partner who’s losing it so you can turn your ship around. I also help you to recognize when it’s time to ‘abandon ship’ and abort mission, as well as how to re-approach your issue so that your next discussion will be successful. Join me as we sail into smoother waters on the Love Boat called Relationship SOS."

http://prfocus.com/article/Top_Relationship_Expert_Reveals_How_To_Stop_Fighting_Today_49820.html

Monday, May 7, 2012

Top Relationship Expert Reveals How To Stop Fighting and Start Communicating Now

Dr. Jamie Turndorf, the popular relationship expert known by two generations of fans as Dr. Love through her award winning Web site AskDrLove.com, will be presenting "Relationship SOS: How to Rescue a Discussion That's Sinking" on her "Ask Dr Love Radio" show on Tuesday, May 8th, 2012 at 9pm EST.

http://www.ideamarketers.com/?articleid=3213918

Saturday, May 5, 2012

Top Relationship Expert Reveals How To Stop Fighting Now!

Popular relationship expert and author Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) outlines her simple yet highly effective relationship conflict resolution methods on AskDrLove Radio May 8th. “In this show,” Dr. Turndorf says, “I share my top three First Aid Tools to cool down a partner who’s losing it so you can turn your ship around. I also help you to recognize when it’s time to ‘abandon ship’ and abort mission, as well as how to re-approach your issue so that your next discussion will be successful. Join me as we sail into smoother waters on the Love Boat called Relationship SOS.”

http://www.free-press-release.com/news-top-relationship-expert-reveals-how-to-stop-fighting-now-1336070885.html

Friday, May 4, 2012

Relationship SOS: How to Rescue a Discussion That's Sinking

Popular relationship expert and author Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) outlines her simple yet highly effective relationship conflict resolution methods on AskDrLove Radio May 8th. “In this show,” Dr. Turndorf says, “I share my top three First Aid Tools to cool down a partner who’s losing it so you can turn your ship around. I also help you to recognize when it’s time to ‘abandon ship’ and abort mission, as well as how to re-approach your issue so that your next discussion will be successful. Join me as we sail into smoother waters on the Love Boat called Relationship SOS.”

http://www.prlog.org/11865953-relationship-sos-how-to-rescue-discussion-thats-sinking.html

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Top Relationship Expert Reveal How to Stop Fighting Now

Dr. Jamie Turndorf, the popular relationship expert known by two generations of fans as Dr. Love through her award winning Web site AskDrLove.com, will be presenting "Relationship SOS: How to Rescue a Discussion That's Sinking” on her “Ask Dr Love Radio” show on Tuesday, May 8th, 2012 at 9pm EST. “In this show,” Dr. Turndorf says, “I share my top three First Aid Tools to cool down a partner who’s losing it so you can turn your ship around. I also help you to recognize when it’s time to ‘abandon ship’ and abort mission, as well as how to re-approach your issue so that your next discussion will be successful. Join me as we sail into smoother waters on the Love Boat called Relationship SOS.”

http://www.widepr.com/press_release/39054/top_relationship_expert_reveals_relationship_communication_secrets.html